Life is a battlefield, love is the artillery that gets you through it.

A couple of posts ago (“Enough walking in a winter wonderland”), I commented on the victims and heroes of the weather we have been going through this year.  This week, I became one of the victims.  The sad thing is that it had nothing to do with the cold and the snow, in fact it was the first nice day in what had been a long string of nasty weather.  I was crossing the parking lot from my car to the door of my office building, stepped into a drain that had sunk into the pavement and fell against my outstretched arm that was trying to protect me. My automatic reaction protected my head from what would have been a severe concussion, but my arm took one for the team. I broke the upper arm just below the ball that goes into the shoulder socket.

This is the place where I whine and complain about the pain, which I’m sure a lot of people can identify with, but instead, I’d like to thank the academy for this award which I proudly display in front of me in a sling. To my friend, who I was chatting with as we crossed the lot, and saw me do my stunt. Thank you for helping me into the office and calling for help.   Your kindness will not be forgotten. To my team at work who helps and supports me every day, and has redoubled their efforts so as a firm, we do not skip a beat. I am grateful for each and  every one of you.  To the EMTs that gently placed me on the gurney and transported me to the hospital.   To a hospital staff who made me as comfortable as possible while they gathered the best information they could to evaluate how to handle this trauma.  And most of all to my family who came to the hospital, gathered up the pieces and took them home to begin the process of repair & restoring. Thank you.

So to get to the point. My last blog on this subject addressed the need for an emergency fund. Cash that helps you get through the unexpected. Every bit as important as financial deposits are the emotional deposits into accounts of the people who you can trust to love and care for you when the chips are down.  That requires daily effort to treat those people with the utmost respect, love, and caring. Doing the little things can make big deposits.  No assuming they know how you feel about them.  Love is a verb.


Unifying values

When the Olympics are on we thrill at the competition.  In so many sports, we see people going head to head one minute, giving hugs and back slaps to each other the next.  It seems like a kind of utopia with the spirit of the game taking presidence.

Of special interest are the team sports, teams that seem to play like a single unit they are so unified by a mission. Anyone who has played on a team, knows the work involved in getting to that single purpose.  Individuals don’t stop being individuals just because they are playing on a team, and it takes a top notch coach to get members to set their individuality aside for the good of the team.

Families are teams, teams often without coaches. Parents sometimes like to try to take the role of coaches, but that is a difficult role to fill when you have the interest of one team member over the other.  Children can be the unifying value in a family or disagreements over the handling of situations with children can destroy a family.  Children are innocent. They are the members who come to the team with one purpose in mind, making the team work.

We buy children all sorts of toys, put them in activities, spend money on elaborate vacations all in attempts to try to make them happy, when the thing that makes them the happiest is a family that loves each other and is committed to each other.  A team’s best season is the one where all the members are playing together and anticipating each other’s needs.  The season when no individual puts their needs above the team’s needs.  Now that’s fun.