“Those convinced against their will, are of the same opinion still.”
— Dave Ramsey’s grandmother
American society has become polarized to the point of being dysfunctional. Abraham Lincoln lived in such a time, and quoted the Bible in saying, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.”
Our social medias have provided space for us to each express our opinion, and many do with little forethought. I am always amazed to find conservatives on liberal sites or liberals on conservative sites screaming down the posts on those sites as if their comments are going to change the thought and opinions on that site. “Those convinced against their will, are of the same opinion still.”
“This is America,” people claim. “We have freedom of expression.” I don’t disagree, because what would be the point of disagreeing with an opinion to the person who just said it. I am of the opinion, that everyone’s opinion is to be respected, even if you disagree with it. But that is just my opinion.
That does not mean that I never get heated when an opinion is expressed that is totally contrary to my own way of thinking. However, the older I get, the more I try to keep my mouth shut in those situations. You may disagree. You may think it is important to speak up in those situations. “Those convinced against their will, are of the same opinion still.”
And the older I get, the more I try to understand the basis of the other person’s opinion, because I have found that every coin has two sides. My wife is a champion of that. Working with preschoolers, she rarely acts on the complaint of one child without getting the other child’s story. The same holds true with what a teacher or parent may tell her. Some think she is too slow to decide, when in fact, she is holding judgement until she has all of the information.
Using this principle in family situations can prevent a lot of isolation. When it comes down to it, regardless of what our opinions are, we are still family, and that should override most any issue that comes up. Keep love in your heart, and a civil tongue in your head. It’s old school, but it works.